Its been almost 6 years to our marriage, but I still don’t understand why do I feel hesitant when it comes to get things done for myself.

I am the daughter of an ex army man, and we the children of army family are used to of adjusting in any given situation because it is in our blood. We see the changes in every 2-3 years because of transfer from one city to another. Everything gets changed, new house, new schools, new friends and many more. We have to start everything again from the beginning.

We are five sisters and whenever I look up to our parents and their hardwork for us, my heart just fills up with proud and deep respect for them. They raised us with no limitations, what ever we needed we had it. Ofcourse every parent has few concerns like is it really needed or can it be replaced with anything else…I think that concern has to be there to make sure your child will think twice for anything.

When the time came for me to be of some support to my family and start my career, I was very happy. Although it wasn’t a huge amount and I couldn’t help mom and dad with finances but I took care of mine atleast. So that I can share some of their responsibilities. Was working for 5 years when I got married.

They say marriage changes everything in a girl’s life. And it really does. I got married but continued my job, we were happy and now also I was able to get what I needed and wanted. There was no need for asking for some money to buy my stuff or to lend money to any of mh friend or relative.

But after having a child everything for me has changed. Its not because I don’t have money its just I am not habitual of asking for anything to someone else. May it be my loving and caring husband. I don’t think it the way like he is earning so its his money, nothing like that. But I feel bad for him, he works so hard and I know how much struggles does it take to get our salary in our hand. I don’t want his everyday struggle and his hardwork to go in vain by putting that hard earned money in some fancy things.

I understand many people will say that he has married you and its his responsibility to take care of your expenses. But tell me if your expenses give problems and loan to your husband will you be able to live happily. He would give you everything you want and then will spend all his time in doing the overtimes and repaying the loans. I feel it so unfair to husbands.

Now I am also planning to do few things. Just waiting for my daughter to grow up. So that I could be a support to my husband.

What do you think of it. Please share your opinions.